Relationships with Self and Others

 This week information was released linking mental health concerns with social media. If you are anything like me this is something you have already noticed and expressed concern regarding. 

The Wall Street Journal had an article this week with the title "Facebook knows Instagram is Toxic to Teen Girls.." Don't be mislead and think it only applies to girls, the article states that the studies show boys are affected too.

23% of girls report that when they feel bad about themselves, Instagram has made them feel worse. 14% of boys also report this same feeling.

We unfortunately cannot simply tell our children to ignore social media. They will not and it is unrealistic to think that they will. That doesn't mean the situation is hopeless. We can equip our children and ourselves with emotional support and understanding.

Mindfulness is a great way to practice self-care, self-acceptance, and self-understanding. When we practice mindfulness we learn to accept the present moment as it is, without judgment. The study on Instagram and mental health presented us with the information that teens (and preteens) are stressed about finding the perfect picture, to show the perfect them. These girls and boys judge themselves based on how others look in photos posted.

Taking time to share a mindful moment with your student could help build resilience, self-love, and a sense that they do not have to be perfect and can accept each moment and themselves, as is. 

A great mindfulness is Metta Loving-Kindness. Sending well wishes toward ourselves (and others). Another  great mindful practice to address and combat this concern is, gratitude. Daily taking time to list at least three things we are grateful for can boost our mood, help us look for the good in each day, and create a deeper connection with those with whom we are grateful

After nearly a year and a half of students learning from a computer it can be a challenge to move away from a screen and build meaningful interpersonal relationships. Before our students can build relationships with others it is important for them to build relationships with themselves. Relationships which are healthy and positive. Mindfulness can and will help. 

If you feel your student is struggling with friendships, self-acceptance, or anything else which concerns you, please reach out.

Pamela McKenzie, Behavior Specialist, 55.pmckenzie@nhaschools.com